You’re on the dating scene again and it could be that you’ve had your fingers burned in past relationships. Why do men cheat? The Examiner shares the results of their research.
#1 He can’t say ‘no’:
The ladies like him and he doesn’t know how to resist their advances.
#2 He likes the ego boost:
If a man is suffering from low self-esteem, he may use cheating to boost his ego.
#3 Peer Pressure
Everyone’s telling him to go for it and he doesn’t want to exclude himself from his crowd.
#4 He’s thinking of ending the relationship
He doesn’t know how to tell you it’s over, so he cheats in the hope that you’ll break up with him instead.
#5 You let him get away with it in the past
It happened before and everything worked out fine. Now he thinks it’s ok to cheat.
#6 It’s a status symbol
Some men may view having multiple partners as a status symbol. Once again, low self-esteem is to blame.
#7 He’s exploring his sexuality
Finding out that your boyfriend is in a gay affair comes as a blow, but perhaps he’s wondering whether he’s gay or bisexual.
#8 Curiosity
He wonders what it would be like to have sex with someone different.
#9 He thinks he can get away with it
You didn’t catch him last time, so he thinks he can get away with it again.
#10 Opportunism
The opportunity arose. He took advantage of it.
#11 He thinks he’s entitled to it
Having a huge ego might make a man think he should be entitled to do as he pleases.
#12 He thought you’d never find out
He decided that what the eye cannot see the heart cannot grieve. There’s just one problem: you found out!
#13 Trying to be more manly
Unfortunately, many men believe that the more sexual partners they have, the more manly they are.
#14 Seeking excitement
Some people thrive on the deception and secrecy of an affair.
#15 He’s a ‘player’
Cheating is what he does. He’s always done it and he probably always will.
#16 He’s confident you won’t leave him
You’ll take him back. You always have. At least, that’s what he thinks.
#17 He thinks he’s in love
It happens. People meet online or long-standing friends become lovers.
#18 Bad Role Models
His dad or his uncles – adults who he always admired – cheated. Now he thinks it’s ok to cheat.
#19 To fulfil a fantasy
Perhaps there’s something that he’d never try with you because he knows you won’t like it. He tries it with someone else.
#20 He was drunk or stoned
Impaired judgement and a reduction in inhibitions makes people indulge in behaviours that would otherwise be out of character.
#21 Culture
In certain cultures, having mistresses is commonplace. He can’t understand what all the fuss is about.
#22 He wants to prove he’s still attractive
Sometimes older men fall for the temptation to prove that they are still able to seduce and satisfy desirable women.
#23 He thinks you’ll look the other way
Somehow, you might have created the impression that you’d deliberately overlook affairs as long as they were conducted discreetly.
#24 Revenge
If he believes that you cheated on him, he may decide that what’s sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.
#25 Sex addiction
In very rare cases, genuine sex addiction can develop. It’s one of the few instances where he can really say he couldn’t help himself.
#26 Just because he can
The opportunity is there. He wants to and he doesn’t see why he shouldn’t.
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