Let’s face it, the first thing you say to someone on a dating site is going to create a lasting impression. You could impress them or creep them out totally with just a few words. Here are some examples compiled by askmen.com of the things you should never, ever try to open a conversation with.
Getting creepy right at the start
Even if she’s just looking for a casual date, most women don’t like ‘do you want some of this?’ pickup lines. Starting off with sexual innuendo is one of the worst things you can do according to askmen,com. Ask any lady you know and she’ll agree. If you’re hoping to make a favourable impression avoid plays of words based on ‘Uranus’ and don’t use sex as the opening line. You won’t get any responses.
The ‘reconnect’
Even if you did work together or attend the same school, don’t make it the basis for the connection. It makes people think that you’re expecting some kind of preferential treatment. You can surely mention your shared acquaintance later on, but don’t bring it up as an opener.
Showing off your massive ego or being patronising
You might think that you’re quite a catch, but coming right out and saying so just makes you look egotistical. Boasting about your achievements, possessions or adventures doesn’t create a good impression.
Whatever you do, don’t patronise the ladies. Of course she likes being told she’s beautiful, but saying it in your first contact is sure to make her feel uncomfortable. If you ‘talk down’ to her, she probably won’t want to talk to you at all.
So what’s the right way to start?
It’s really very simple. Be sincere, pleasant and polite. Avoid macho posturing and show that you’re interested in getting to know her on an equal footing.
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